You look back on all the years of marriage that you have spent together and you think about all the events that you both have been through from the birth of your children to financial and personal difficulties, and as you reel in pain with the thoughts of the affair that has just happened, AnastasiaDate.com you wonder if this is it, and the death knell for your marriage has been sounded.
This is a very common question that
many people who have been emotionally injured by an affair ask themselves.
Coping with the aftermath of an affair is emotionally one of the most difficult
things that you can go through. It's time now to decide if this really is the
end of your marriage.
The truth of the matter is that
only you and your spouse can decide if you have come to the end of the road of
your relationship but the following tips can certainly help you to decide if
this really is the end of your marriage together.
In our society the infidelity of an
affair is not easily forgiven by the cheated spouse and there is somewhat of an
expectation on the spouse to react angrily to the news. There is of course the
expectation too, to get a divorce and this is certainly very understandable but
I would recommend that a couple first of all work on healing their marriage if
they both want to, as they will then have a better idea what they will be
passing up if a divorce goes through.
The healing of the marriage that I am
talking about here is not a journey back to way things were but is rather about
building VictoriaHearts.com review a new and
better relationship together. The decision to do so however will all depend on
you searching within your own heart as to whether this is the right move for
you.
It's a good idea at this stage to
talk to someone who is impartial about the course of action you should take. If
you talk to friends who say that you should just get out of the relationship,
the chances are that they are just trying to protect you from further pain.
There are other people at the same
time that will advise you to stay in the relationship. They again will want you
to be happy and will know how much the relationship means to you.
No matter who you go to for advice
the important thing to remember is to do what you think is right in spite of
what other people may think. It's also important to be careful about who you
talk to about the affair. Some family members may remain angry at your partner LatinFeels long after you have forgiven them and others may
silently be judging you for leaving the partner after they told you to stay
with them.
All roads of this discussion are
essentially pointing back to the fact that it will be up to you in the end as
to whether you stay with your partner or not.
So how to you come to the decision
as whether you should stay or go?
The following questions need to be
asked when trying to make up your mind about this.
You must know whether or not the
affair is truly over and has your partner truly looked for a way to ask for
forgiveness? You also need to know if your partner is truly engaged in the idea
of repairing the damage done to the relationship such as visiting a counsellor
or reading material like this. Ask yourself if your spouse in now being
completely honest with you and is the spouse ready to leave the marriage
themselves, and if they are willing to discuss problems in the marriage and the
affair itself.
It's also important to look at
whether or not you can actually improve your marriage and if it's worth the
effort. A useful question to ask yourself is if you would like to fall back in
love with each other again.
These are but some of the questions
that you will need to ask yourself when you are thinking about making the
marriage work or not.
The bottom line again though is
that it is up to you and you alone and remember that there is no rule or
regulation that says you have to finish the relationship because an affair has
taken place.
The fact of the matter is that your
relationship can even become stronger as I have seen many times after an
affair.
In the meantime I'd love to know
how your marriage is going. Have you talked to anyone about the affair and what
was the outcome of that? What would you like to see change in your spouse and
in your relationship?
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